I think I’ve been having a bit of a pity party... and don’t get me wrong, there isn’t anything wrong with having a pity party. It’s the length of time I’ve been spending at that party that matters.
And I know there are always going to be curve balls; its how we deal with them that help us to move forward in life, instead of continually getting knocked down.
Dysfunctional families, health issues, moving, being fired from a job you love, the break-up of a relationship, or worse yet, a death in the family; these are all things that throw a curve into our lives and have most people heading on over to a pity party.
Like I said, we need the time to get used to new ideas or changes in our lives and its okay to feel sorry for ourselves when life gets us down. Take the time to grieve, cry and get used to the change - whatever that change is. However try not to spend too much time being negative because what we put out; good or bad; positive or negative, we attract - especially energy.
What I find works for me (most of the time), is to look at the change; break it down and figure out the best way to get through it. I make a list of the pros and cons as to why I’m having an issue with this particular curve, so that I can make an informed decision.
I know some of you are saying that those lists don’t work because they fall short, but I find that if I rate each pro/con as to its importance on a scale with one being the lowest, they almost always help. Besides, there is a lot of research that claims when you write down your thoughts or ideas, it helps to make you see them more clearly and I would have to agree.
What also works is to cry, and then cry some more. Crying not only serves an emotional purpose by releasing pent up energy, it may also have a biochemical purpose. That purpose is to release the stress hormones and toxins that build up in our bodies over time; excreting those toxins in our tears - crying.
Then ...I work on moving forward.
Stay safe and stay strong. Thanks for following.